MAKING SPACE OR FILLING SPACE?

DO YOU MAKE SPACE OR FILL SPACE?

WHAT AM I MAKING SPACE FOR?

Does freedom have a plan? 

On this beautiful spring day here's where I am up to, as I made space in my body and mind first thing.

Taking a moment to listen to the feedback from my body, where’s tight, tense or sore. 

What would benefit from my attention? I created space to sit and stretch, which allows me to quieten my mind and tap into my intuition and knowing.

I thought my first email would be about 'Change' however having given space for the flow of writing to come ‘Space’ is what wants to flow! 

To most ‘Space’ is also perceived as ‘Time’.

🌟What are we making time for? 

As I like to bring consciousness to the words we use in our daily lingo, I will continue this blog with the word ‘space’ rather than ‘time’ (remembering that time is an illusion, dependant on our thoughts we can experience it fast slow and everything in between. Example: Your least favourite things drag, the things that light you up fly by). 

Over the last year I have been aware and adapted what I make space for.

Up till 4-5 years ago I made space for everyone and anyone with very few boundaries, leaving little space for myself! 

I started saying YES to only what I wanted to do rather than what I thought I had to, need to or should be doing, realising every time I said NO there was a running commentary going on in the background of what it meant about me.

Having upped my ‘Space game’ (ha, I literally made that up now 🤓) I’ve realised the more space created the more uncomfortable I can feel. 

Which I noticed (remember awareness is key to any change) I could slip into finding things to do even ‘for myself.’ This even includes arranging to meet with friends, looking at a trip away, arranging and booking things ahead, packing a bag for ‘next’ weeks trip, starting something that’s not for a month’s time even. 

Space is often where fear can come in, there's a saying that 'People do not fear what they can't have rather they fear that they could have what they want!'

Space allows us to meet with the fears, let it have a voice and be heard otherwise it will keep knocking at our door! 

MY QUESTION NOW EVOLVES TO;

ARE WE FREELY DOING WHAT WE WANT TO DO OR ARE WE DOING WHATS EXPECTED OF US? 

Whether that be by societal and/or generational expectations and norms, groups, family or friends. 

✨Are you making space to be and do what you really want?

    or 

✨Are you filling space to avoid what you really want? 

“WHAT YOU WANT, WANTS YOU!”

✨I may have opened your curiosity to make space for more of what you want or even disturbed the fear of making space so you could experience what you really want! Whether that’s making space to sit in the middle of the day to read your favourite book or go on your favourite walk to a life change chapter or even walk away from everything you’ve ever known. These are only a few ideas, deep down you’ll know what it is. 

Here’s some ways to sit with unexpected ‘space’ and see what it’s got to offer you!

Firstly catch that you are doing something that maybe doesn’t need to be done right now! 

Option’s/ideas (do create your own space) 

Make a drink and sit. 

Go to your happy place and sit.

Walk and find somewhere to sit.

Stretch and stretch holds (this really works if you have a very busy mind)

Once in your space find one thing to focus on even if it's your own breath, let yourself be there for a few moments.

Ask yourself?

What do I want?

What's stopping me? and/or what am I scared of?

Reply to yourself:

I acknowledge what I want, 

I acknowledge what is stopping me and what I am scared of (what if being scared is simply because it matters).

I give myself permission to receive what I want!

Then add your own answers to the following statements:

I am open to making space for...

I am open to receiving...

I give myself permission to...

It's law of attraction you can only have space for what you want, if you make space for it!

Simply making space to sit somewhere to have this conversation with yourself is you making space for what you want!

I am experiencing this daily, I'd love for you to. Will you give it a try?

“THE HELPING HAND YOU ARE LOOKING FOR IS AT THE END OF YOUR OWN ARM.”

MAKE SPACE AND INVEST IN YOURSELF.

Vulnerability is a gift and something I am here for, my blogs and articles are about the rawness of emotions, why we can push them down and pretend to be okay, when deep down we are not. Even if one person reads this and no longer feels alone or can identify something within themselves then it was worth being so open through my writing.

I am aware my vulnerability can stir/trigger something within others, my want is for more people to learn how to innerstand themselves, so they can live a happier healthier and freer life and so by doing so, not to pass on generational patterns onto our future generations.

If this has stirred something in you and you want to support or guidance, you can fill out my reach me form, at vitality-yorkshire.com/reach-me